Selected References & Resources


Alcoholics Anonymous. The Big Book (2002)

Burroughs, Augustin. Dry: A Memoir (2013)

Carnes, Patrick. A Gentle Path Through the 12 Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery (2012)

Carnes, Patrick. Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction (2001)

Covington, Stephanie. A Woman’s Way Through the Twelve Steps (1994)

Evans, K. & M.J. Sullivan. Treating the Addicted Survivors of Trauma (1995)

Fleming, Martin. Commitment to Sobriety: A Relapse Prevention Guide for Adults in Recovery (1991)

Flores, Phillip. Addiction as an Attachment Disorder (2004)

Gregson, D. & J.S. Efran. The Tao of Sobriety (2002)

Hepola, Sarah. Blackout: Remembering the Things I Drank to Forget (2015)

Miller, W. & S. Rollnick. Motivational Interviewing: Preparing People to Change Addictive Behavior. (1991)

Moyers, William C. Broken: My Story of Addiction and Redemption (2007)

Moyers, William C. “Now What?” An Insider’s Guide to Addiction and Recovery (2012)

Narcotics Anonymous (PDF online at

Sheff, David. Beautiful Boy (2009)

Sheff, David. Clean: Overcoming Addiction and Ending America’s Greatest Tragedy (2014)

Sheff, Nic. Tweak (2009) (follow up to Beautiful Boy)

Sheff, Nic. We All Fall Down: Living with Addiction (2012)

Twerski, Abraham. Addictive Thinking: Understanding Self-Deception (2nd Edition) (1997)

Blackout -- Remembering the Things I Drank to Forget


Belsky, Jay & T. Nezworski. Clinical Implications of Attachment (1987)

Bowlby, John. Applications of Attachment Theory (1988)

Bowlby, John. A Secure Base : Parent-Child Attachment and Healthy Human Development (1988)

Brodzinsky, David & M. Schecter. Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self (1993)

Eldridge, Sherrie. Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew (2015)

Eldridge, Sherrie. Twenty Things Adoptive Parents Need to Succeed (2009)

Fessler, Ann. The Girls Who Went Away (2001)

Forbes, H. & B. Post. Beyond Logic, Consequences, and Control: A Love-Based Approach to Helping Attachment-Challenged Children with Severe Behaviors (2006)

Hughes, Daniel. Building the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Love in Deeply Troubled Children (2006)

Hughes, Daniel. Facilitating Developmental Attachment: The Road to Emotional Recovery and Behavioral Change in Foster and Adopted Children (1997)

Karen, Robert. Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love (1998)

Lifton, Betty Jean. The Journey of the Adopted Self: A Quest for Wholeness (1995)

Mikulincer, M. & P. Shaver. Attachment In Adulthood: Structure, Dynamics and Change (2010)

Noble, Elizabeth. Primal Connections: How Our Experiences from Conception to Birth Influence Our Emotions, Behavior, and Health (1993)

Perry, B. & M. Szalavitz. The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist’s Notebook: What Traumatized Children Can Teach Us About Love, Loss and Healing (2007)

Verner, Nancy. The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child (2003)

Walant, Karen. Creating the Capacity for Attachment: Treating Addictions and the Alienated Self (1999)


Barkley, Russell. Taking Charge of ADHD (2013)

Cooper-Kahn & L. Dietzel. Late, Lost, and Unprepared (2008)

Dawson, P. & R. Guare. Smart but Scattered: The Revolutionary “Executive Skills” Approach to Helping Kids Reach their Potential (2009)

Hallowell, E. & B. Moyer. A Walk in the Rain with the Brain (2004)

Hallowell, E. & J. Ratey. Driven to Distraction (2011)

Hallowell, E. & J. Ratey. Answers to Distraction (2010)

Levine, Mel. All Kinds of Minds (1992)

Levine, Mel. The Myth of Laziness (2004)

Taylor, John. Survival Guide for Kids with ADD and ADHD (2013)

Driven to Distraction


Attwood, Tony. The Complete Guide to Asperger’s Syndrome (2008)

Bowers, M. & K. Bowers. Sosh: Improving Social Skills with Children and Adolescents (2011)

Carley, M.J. & P. Gerhardt. Aspergers from the Inside Out (2008)

Grandin, T. & R. Panek. The Autistic Brain (2014)

Grandin, T & C. Johnson. Animals in Translation: Using the Mysteries of Autism to Decode Animal Behavior (2006)

Grandin, Temple. Thinking in Pictures: My Life with Autism (2006)

Higashida, Naoki. The Reason I Jump: The Inner Voice of a Thirteen Year Old Boy with Autism (2013)

Jackson, L. & T. Atwood. Freaks, Geeks, and Asperger Syndrome: A User Guide to Adolescence (2002)

Klass, P. & E. Costello. Quirky Kids: Understanding and Helping Your Child Who Doesn’t Fit In – When to Worry and When Not to Worry (2004)

Ledgin, N. & M. Ledgin. Asperger’s and Self Esteem: Insight and Hope through Famous Role Models (2002)

Prince-Hughes, Dawn. Songs of the Gorilla Nation: My Journey through Autism (2004)

Robison, John E. Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger’s (2008)

Rubenstein, Marcia. Raising NVLD Superstars: What Families with Nonverbal Learning Disabilities Need to Know About Nurturing Confident, Competent Kids (2005)

Silberman, Steve. NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity (2015)

Wolf, L & J. Brown. Students with Asperger Syndrome: A Guide for College Personnel (2009)

The Autistic Brain - Temple Grandin


Albom, Mitch. Tuesdays with Morrie: An Old Man, a Young Man and Life’s Greatest Lesson (2002)

Arbinger Institute. Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict (2015)

Arbinger Institute. Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box (2010)

Beattie, Melody. Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (1986)

Boesky, Lisa. When to Worry: How to Tell if Your Teen Needs Help and What to Do About It (2007)

Bozarth, Alla Renee. A Journey Through Grief: Gentle, Specific Help to Get You through the Most Difficult Stages of Grieving (1994)

Brown, Brené. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead (2012)

Capacchinoe, Lucia. Recovery of Your Inner Child: The Highly Acclaimed Method for Liberating Your Inner-Self (1991)

Chodron, Pema. Comfortable with Uncertainty: 108 Teachings on Cultivating Fearlessness and Compassion (2003)

Cohen, Kerry. Loose Girl: A Memoir of Promiscuity (2009)

Dweck, Carol. Mindset: The New Psychology of Success (2007)

Emerson, D. & E. Hopper. Overcoming Trauma Through Yoga: Reclaiming Your Body (2011)

Emoto, Masaru. The Hidden Messages in Water (2005)

Glasser, William. Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom (1999)

Jamison, Kay R. An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness (1997)

Jamison, Kay R. Night Falls Fast: Understanding Suicide (1999)

Kreisman, J. & H. Straus. I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me: Understanding Borderline Personality (2010)

Lerner, Harriet. Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide (2014)

Levine, Noah. Dharma Punx (2004)

Mason, P. & R. Kreger. Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has BPD (2010)

Meadows, Karen. Searching for Normal: The Story of a Girl Gone too Soon (2016)

Nhat Hanh, Thich. Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames (2002)

O’Connor, Richard. Undoing Depression: What Therapy Doesn’t Teach You and Medication Can’t Give You (2010)

Papolos, Dimitri. The Bipolar Child: The Definitive and Reassuring Guide to Childhood’s Most Misunderstood Disorder (Third Edition) (2007)

Ruiz, Don Miguel. The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (1997)

Sachs, Oliver. The Man Who Mistook his Wife for a Hat: And Other Clinical Tales (1998)

Seligman, Martin. Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life (2006)

Sheehan, Susan. Is There No Place on Earth for Me (2014)

Simmons, Rachel. Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls (2003, 2011)

Spradlin, Scott. Don’t Let Your Emotions Run Your Life: How DBT Can Put You in Control (2003)

Stout, Martha. The Sociopath Next Door (2005)

Styron, William. Darkness Visible: A Memoir of Madness (1992)

Twenge, J. & W.Campbell. The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement (2010)

Whitaker, Robert. Anatomy of an Epidemic: Magic Bullets, Psychiatric Drugs, and the Astonishing Rise of Mental Illness in America (2011)

Whitefield, Charles. Boundaries and Relationships: Knowing, Protecting, and Enjoying the Self (1994)

Yalom, Irvin. The Gift of Therapy (2009)

Zweig, Connie. Meeting the Shadow: The Hidden Power of the Dark Side of Human Nature (1991)

Daring Greatly -- How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead


Brizendine, Lavann. The Female Brain (2007)

Engleman, David. Incognito. The Secret Lives of the Brain (2012)

Hanson, R. & A. Medius. Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom (2009)

Kindlon, D. & M. Thompson. Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys (2000)

Medina, John. Brain Rules: 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home and School (2014)

Perry, B. & M. Szalavitz. The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist’s Notebook: What Traumatized Children Can Teach Us About Love, Loss and Healing (2007)

Pink, Daniel A. Whole New Mind: Why Right Brainies Will Rule the Future (2006)

Pinker, Steven. How the Mind Works (2009)

Siegel, Daniel. The Mindful Brain: Reflection and Attunement in the Cultivation of Well-Being (2007)

Siegel, Daniel. The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are (Second Edition) (2015)

Strauch, Barbara. The Primal Team: What New Discoveries About the Teenage Brain Tell Us about Our Kids (2004)


Barkley, A. Russell. Your Defiant Child: Eight Steps to Better Behavior (Second Edition) (2013)

Cline, F. & J. Fay. Parenting with Love and Logic (2008)

Cline F. & J. Fay. Parenting Teens with Love and Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood (2006)

Covey, S. & S. Covey. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families (1998)

Dinkmeyer, D., & G. McKay. Parenting Teenagers: Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (2007)

Faber, A. & E. Mazlish. How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk (2012)

Kenneth, M. & R. Ginsburg. Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Giving Kids Roots & Wings (2014)

Glenn, S. & J. Nelson. Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World: Seven Building Blocks for Developing Capable Young People (2000)

Gurian, Michael. Boys and Girls Learn Differently: A Guide for Teachers and Parents (2010)

Gurian, Michael. The Wonder of Girls (2002)

Gurian, Michael. The Wonder of Boys (1997)

Haid, R. & E. Donnelly. Second Shelter: Family Strategies for Navigating Therapeutic Boarding Schools and Residential Treatment Centers (2013)

Hughes, Daniel. Attachment-Focused Parenting: Effective Strategies to Care for Children (2009)

Hyken, Russell. The Parent Playbook (2012)

Keck, G. and R. Kupecky. Parenting the Hurt Child: Helping Adoptive Families Heal and Grow (2009)

Kohn, Alfie. Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishment to Love and Reason (2006)

Levine, Madeline. The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids (2008)

Maxym, C. & L. York. Teens in Turmoil: A Path to Change for Parents, Adolescents and their Families (2001)

McKinnon, John. To Change a Mind: Parenting to Promote Maturity in Teenagers (2010)

Meyerson, M.& L. Ashner. When Parents Love Too Much: Freeing Parents & Children to Live their Own Lives (1997)

Mogel, Wendy. The Blessings of a Skinned Knee: Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Self-Reliant Children (2008)

Mogel, Wendy. Blessing of a B Minus: Using Jewish Teachers to Raise Resilient Teenagers (2011)

Nelson, J. & L. Lott. Positive Discipline for Teenagers: Empowering Your Teens and Yourself through Kind and Firm Parenting (2012)

Patterson K., et al. Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High (2011)

Pollack, William. Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood (1999)

Pope, Laren. Colleges that Change Lives: 40 Schools that Will Change the Way You Think about College (2012)

Price, Jerome. Power and Compassion: Working with Difficult Adolescents and Abused Parents (1999)

Reedy, Brad. The Journey of the Heroic Parent: Your Child’s Struggle and the Road Home (2015)

Robbins, Alexandra. The Overachievers: The Secret Lives of Driven Kids (2007)

Rubinstein, Marcia. Raising NLD Superstars: What Families with Nonverbal Learning Disabilities Need to Know About Nurturing Confident, Competent Kids (2005)

Ruhlman, Michael. Boys Themselves (1996)

Sachs, Brad. The Good Enough Child: How to Have an Imperfect Family and Be Perfectly Satisfied (2001)

Sachs, Brad. The Good Enough Teen: Rising Adolescents with Love and Acceptance (Despite How Impossible They can Be) (2005)

Sachs, Brad. Emptying the Nest: Launching Your Young Adult Toward Success and Self-Reliance (2010)

Sax, Leonard. Why Gender Matters: What Parents and Teachers Need to Know about the Emerging Science of Sex Differences (2006)

Sax, Leonard. Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men (2009)

Sax, Leonard. Girls on the Edge (2010)

Sells, Scott. Parenting Your Out of Control Teenager: 7 Steps to Reestablish Authority and Reclaim Love (2002)

Siegel, D.J. & M. Hartzell. Parenting from the Inside Out: 10th Anniversary edition: How A Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children (2013)

Solomon, Andrew. Far From the Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity (2013)

Thayne, Tim. Not By Chance (2013)

Tough, Paul. How Children Succeed: Grit, Curiosity, and the Hidden Power of Character (2013)

Weissbourd, Richard. The Parents We Mean to Be: How Well-Intentioned Adults Undermine Children’s Moral and Emotional Development (2010)

Wiener, Craig. Parenting Your ADD Child: A No-Nonsense Guide for Nurturing Self-Reliance and Cooperation (2012)

The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids
The Journey of the Heroic Parent


Case, Paul. What Now: How Teen Therapeutic Programs Could Save Your Troubled Child (2008)

Dudman, Martha. Augusta, Gone (2001)

Faulberg, Vera. Residential Treatment: A Tapestry of Many Therapies (1990)

Ferguson, Gary. Shouting at the Sky: Troubled Teens and the Promise of the Wild (2009)

Fontaine, C. & M. Fontaine. Mia Come Back: A Mother and Daughter’s Journey Through Hell and Back (2006)

Haid, R. & E. Donnelly. Second Shelter: Family Strategies for Navigating Therapeutic Boarding Schools and Residential Treatment Centers (2013)

JTSP: Journal of Therapeutic Schools and Programs

Marcus, David. What It Takes to Pull Me Through: Why Teenagers Get in Trouble and How Four of Them Got Out (2005)

McKinnon, John. An Unchanged Mind: The Problem with Immaturity in Adolescence (2008)

Pozatek, Krissy. The Parallel Process: Growing Alongside Your Adolescent or Young Adult in Treatment (2010)

Vorrath, Harry. Positive Peer Culture (2nd Ed.) (1986)

White, Kristin. The Complete Guide to the Gap Year: The Best Thing to Do Between High School and College (2009)

The Parallel Process


Cash, H. & K. McDaniel. Video Games and Your Kids: How Parents Stay in Control (2008)

Doan, A. & B. Strickland. Hooked on Games: The Lure and Cost of Video Game and Internet Addiction (2012)

Jackson, M. & B. McKibben. Distracted: The Erosion of Attention and the Coming Dark Age (2009)

Rosen, Larry. iDisorder: Understanding Our Obsession with Technology and Overcoming Its Hold on Us (2013)